8. Redirecting the TrajectoryWe always got stuck in the same place untilone day when I said what I said, which I had been saying for years, he pausedbecause he was thinking about why I kept saying it. And the next thing he saidwas genius. Hi, this is judge Lynn Toler, and welcome to episode eight of thatconversation. An audio course designed to help you talk to the person thatyou're in love with this episode is going to be called breaking badcommunication habits.[00:00:44] Now we all get into bad communicationhabits. In fact, we all get into bad habits. Routinely bad habits are thehobgoblin of not getting it right. We tend to do what we've already done overand over and over again. As a matter of fact on divorce court, what I found waspeople will always tell me, you know, judge I've tried everything.[00:01:09] I've tried every way to talk tothem. I've tried every way to convince her. But nothing seems to change. Thenwhen I asked them, what effect did you try? We all reali...