There are key areas in which couples can find themselves in a struggle for control. Areas such as who gets to decide, leader/ follower dynamics in the relationship and what we do with our money. Even the healthiest couples can get into power struggles in these areas and have to work through challengingconversations to work out what will workbestfor them goingforward. What can make these discussions even harder is being too emotionally overloaded. Before having these discussions do I need to be clear on what is driving me here. Are my reactions and anger only driven by the present, or am I bringing in unresolvedresiduefrom past relationships? How can I get clear on what my emotional drivers are so that we can have the best chance to reacha workable solution together. How can I help myself so as to help us?