Over years of practicing the art of communication, Alan Alda has developed three rules that help him make sure he’s getting his point(s) across. We’re sharing them with you with a caveat: Alda emphasizes that these “tips” are the end result of years of learning. He recommends that you focus, above all else, on trying to connect, as starting with a list of rules can actually have the opposite effect, drawing your attention away from the person you’re talking to.